An Open Letter to the Moms Without Children


Dear Mom,

I know your heart is so full for your child.

Your love is bursting.






Your love for your child is so pure.

They just aren’t here yet.

I don’t know where your life situation, body, or journey is, but I know your heart.

I feel your pain.

Your circle of friends are having children. You share your joy.

Your family members are having kids. You serve them.

Your friends’ kids are reaching milestones. You celebrate with them.

You don’t have a partner yet. You happily stand by your friends as they get married.

You celebrate with everyone because you are genuinelyhappy for them.

But something inside of you aches.

It aches every single time.

You keep your reality from your friends and family. You don’t want to steal from their joy. You don’t want their pity or questions. You don’t need another reminder.

You bought another ovulation kit. You prepare for another month.

You’re trying fertility treatments. You stay positive.

You’ve run out of money from failed fertility treatments. You work hard to rebuild.

You have had miscarriages. You mourn.

You try again.

And again.

And again.

Through the anger. The heartbreak. The agony. The sadness. The sorrow.

You try again.

It’s okay to be sad. To be angry. To cry. It is okay to feel those emotions.

It’s okay to hurt. Those feelings are real, and they are valid.

Can I tell you something, beautiful mama? 

Jesus hears your cries. He is holding your child’s spirit in His arms and rocking your lovely baby back and forth.

He is giving your child so much of His Heavenly love. It is beautiful.

And He wants to hold on to you too.

Rest in Him.

Trust in His timing.

Even through the pain.

Trust in His timing.

Even through a negative test.

Trust in His timing.

Even through the sad days.

Trust in His timing.

Even through the baby showers.

Trust in His timing.

Even through the doctor’s appointments.

Trust in His timing.

Even through the paperwork.

Trust in His timing.

Even though it really sucks.

Trust in His timing.

Your time is coming, selfless mama.

Your table is being set, and it is magnificent.

You are worthy of a child, and He has not forgotten you. 

He is faithful.

He is a Good Daddy.

And He wants to make you a Good Mommy.

Keep trusting.

Keep hoping

Keep wishing.

Keep dreaming.

Keep celebrating.

Keep loving.

Keep praying

Keep delighting in Him.

He will give you the desires of your heart.

Your child might come from you.

Your child might come from someone else.

But your child will come. 

Thank you for being a good friend, aunt, sister, cousin, and daughter through your pain.

Thank you for celebrating, serving, and extending your genuine joy, though your heart was also filled with sorrow.

Thank you for loving on other’s kids, because you genuinely love them as your own.

You are worthy.


A Mom Without a Child Yet

“Take delight in the Lord, and He will give you the desires of your heart.” –Psalm 37:4



  1. I don’t want to be intrusive, I have no idea what your personal issues are with infertility. I just want to share that after many years, many tears, many prayers, our daughter learned of embryo adoption ( souls on ice) and we were all blessed with a beautiful addition to our family. God is so good.
    I just always want to share this, as so many people have told us they had never heard of embryo adoption. Bless you.

    1. Hi Gail! Not intrusive in the slightest! I actually have a friend who did embryo adoption! It is such a beautiful concept, but you’re so right: not many people are aware of it! Thank you for sharing!

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